Let's Talk Relationships: The Startup

WARNING: This article was written with a giddy spirit!

Are you as awkward as I am? Are you weird at doing the affection thing? Do you wish you could be more expressive and show your lover the same affection s/he shows you? Then this series is for you!

Being an awkard girl is fun for me. I have such unique experiences of normal social interactions. Sometimes social interactions are curious challenges I get to explore and sometimes they are just dreadfully awkward and embarrassing. So as you can imagine, my intimate relationships are 10 times as trying as my other relationships. I'm not always sure when to give a hug, how to touch my partner lovingly and sometimes I just get bored. But I do believe that in relationships, one must never give up until it is absolutely necessary. Here are some tips I have for dealing with the start up stages you may go through in your relationship.

1. THE CRUSH

There are 4 possibilities; Possibility 1: You crush, s/he doesn't

Possibility 2:S/ He crushes, you... not so much

Possibility 3: You both crush but you both don't know or s/he knows

and Possibility 4: You both crush and you both know or only you know

There is not much you can do about possibility 2. Unless it develops into possibility 4, in which case you should balls up and say something. There biggest and most common reason people don't take their interest in someone a step past the crushing stage is because of the fear of rejection. With possibility 4, the chance of rejection is very little. It can be awkward to confess your feelings for someone but it is way more awkward to live with it and constantly overthink situations between the 2 of you because you haven't said anything and everything is left hanging in the air.

Possibility 1 and 3 are tricky. In these instances, fear of rejection is rationally dominant. The choices of what to do in these instances are very limited. You can either keep your feelings to yourself and those that you chose to share it with and hope that maybe your crush might make a move or you can balls up and say something. The latter, however frightening, is always the best solution. Just something, anything, and if it is meant to be, it will. More times than others, it works out... eventually. Don't plan what you are going to say, that never works out the way we want. Just work up to the beautiful specimen and hope that your stars are aligned.

2. THE MACK

Okay, so now you've approached the moon to your stars and it's time to say that something, that anything we spoke about earlier. While you chat him or her up, remember to be yourself. Be completely honest about who you are. Faking who you are to impress your crush will get you nowhere fast. Weird, cool, funny, even sad, what ever it is that you are when you are alone, be that with her or him. People appreciate realness and if s/he does not appreciate your youest-you then you two will be better off without each other.

3. THE BEGINNING

She thinks you are funny, he finds you interesting. Things are good. You are both happy and in a good place. So why you and 'Hot Guy from Club ;)' still flirtexting? You might think it's harmless but it's these little things that build up into bigger issues. I know, I know, the relationship is still new, there is no guarantee it will last past Friday. But back up plans are a sign that you aren't ready or fully committed. Not being ready and fully committed is what might cause your new relationship to end before it has had the chance to even see light of day. So stop creating solutions for problems that creation of the solution causes and cut 'Girl W/ Big Ass *tongue out emoji*' off.